Hello Everyone! for this week's blog I wanted to share one of the last assignments we had to do for the course, it's a top ten things I want to remember from this class. I learned a lot from it and definitely helped me understand myself better and my view on family, and to manage my own family in a better way. this is my list:
1) Cohabitation is not a good precursor to marriage. Even though there’s a popular belief that it is a good idea to cohabitate to get to know the future husband/wife better, research shows that it might not be the best idea. Most people to cohabitate and get married will not take marriage seriously and are more likely to get divorced later in the relationship.
2) A person can be unfaithful to a partner without physical contact. Church leaders (not in official settings) have invited people in the past to avoid spending alone time with coworkers or friends of the opposite gender. There is a reason why missionaries are always asked to be with their companion and to not go into houses where a person of the opposite gender is alone.
3) Divorce is not always the best solution; it affects families and children for the rest of their lives. Divorce is something that should be considered very carefully before getting to it. It is advised for a couple to go to therapy together and planning to try to save the relationship, before signing and preparing divorce papers.
4) A couple must be careful to not put the kids between them, there always must be a strong bond between man and woman, and the children should be part of that system. Parents should not “take sides” when dealing with a problem. Kids should be taught by both parents and should not get between a father and a mother.
5) Same-gender attraction is not a sin, people that experience same-sex attraction suffers and should be treated with love and respect, at the end of the day, they do not choose to have this attraction, this behavior can be the result of early childhood abuse or traumatic experiences and sometimes it can be dealt with therapy.
6) A family crisis has the chance of making a family stronger and help them get closer and like a team, or it can disrupt their system and make them fall apart. Whenever there is a crisis, try to tackle it with your family, sometimes we will naturally react in a way that will drift us away from our loved ones, or just try to make us avoid facing the issue, but this attitude will end up causing a heavy load in the family and might cause the family to be destroyed.
7) It is a good idea to create and have an idea of how a family system will work in a family, this will help create boundaries with extended family and will help so that the marriage stays strong, and the children feel like they have a part in the family important decisions.
8) Dating is something that should be going on continuously, I have felt I am “away” from my wife when we do not spend quality time together for a while. Life can be troublesome and challenging, doing small and simple planned and intentional things together will help keep the relationship strong.
9) Compared to single-parent households, having both parents can help a child do better in life, this is backed up by studies on incarcerated people, high school dropouts, drug abuse, and life expectancy. Adults that grew in a single-parent household were most likely to suffer from the issues mentioned earlier.
10) Good communication might be one of the most important parts of a relationship especially when conflicts arise. When dealing with conflicts it is important to be empathetic, or to put on the other person shows, its important to be assertive, using I feel statements instead of blaming the other person or guilt-tripping the people around us, and lastly to show respect, even if we feel frustrated or angry, try to find something positive to say about the other person, even if you are mad.
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